Yes, It's my Grandpa's road!

Have you seen this decal anywhere? If you do, look ahead.. its me at the wheel!
Its a residue from my teens... Any desi who reads this decal would get it immediately but the others don't. So I thought its high time I blogged about it.

Everytime I stop at a traffic light, my eyes automatically peek into the rearview mirror to see how the driver behind me reacts to this decal. If its a desi, I get a small smile and the others?.. well I've seen "Wha...t?!!!" , shrugs, "Whatever that means" and disinterested scans.
So, what does the phrase mean? Well it says "Yeah, this is ancestral property.. I will drive as I please!" I know its like rubbing salt when I weave like crazy and cut-off the other drivers on the highway... but what can I say man? Thats what its there to do!

It would have been more impressive if I had a BMW... it does look a little pathetic on my 105hp Yaris. :(

Tamil heroines 09 - oru alasal

Nayanthara, Shriya, Tamanna, Asin and Trisha are the ladies who currently rule tamil cinema. First of all, hats off to them for all their achievements. They are smart young women who have very easily ridden the fame wave and managed to stay afloat with a good balance.

I always feel people who started out as models can hardly act. Maybe they practise the straight face - stare ahead- look so much, that they find it hard to emote. As with any rule - Aishwarya Rai is an exception to this - but the problem with her is that she emotes just too much - so much so that it leaves a sickeningly sweet after taste.
Trisha however, is no exception - she has perfected the peengan bommai looks. She had her chance under the spotlight and did good. I love the chemistry she shared with Vikram in Samy and Vijay in Gilli. That said, I fail to recall any movie in which she has impressed the audience as a character artiste. So as directors search for "newer faces" who cost them less - I think the sun is setting in the Trisha empire.

Asin entered tamil cinema with a bang - yes, M Kumaran son of Mahalakshmi was a super duper hit and won her many laurels. 2005 was an even greater year - I think she did 5 movies that year and all fared very well in the box office. But lady luck doesn't smile for too long a time - she tried to make it big in Bollywood with London dreams but has fallen flat. She would need another 2005 to carve her niche back in Kollywood - maybe that's what she is wishing for this Christmas!

The day she signed Shivaji must have been the D-Day for Shriya. Ok ok - I'll take it easy with my Rajini craziness - but you know I'm right! Shivaji crowned Shriya the reigning queen of tamil cinema - atleast it did for that year.She looked so different - awesome makeup, awesome clothes, awesome lights - well t'was a thalaivar padam, ofcourse no cost was spared. What it did for Shriya was great -it took her to the next tier and gave her the break she needed. If she could only keep a level head and stop acting like a brainless oaf in her interviews, I think she would do much better. I hope its only a farce and not her true nature, but putting on a pout and talking like a lil bebe beee weeeeeee doesn't become her one bit.

Hmm, so that leaves us with who? Nayanthara and Tamanna.

Nayanthara does a great job. I liked the character she portrayed in Yaaradi nee mohini. No frills or furs. Like the host on sunTV's top ten would say, it was "yeathartham". Nayanthara was rolly-polly in Chandramukhi and kept adding on the pounds until she almost looked like she would burst in Ghajini. But "Balelakka" in Shivaji was a welcome surprise. She had awesome toned abs but the sunken cheeks did make her look very malnourished. Looks like she has been on a yo yo with her diet but in Aadhavan she looked horrible. Maybe if she looses those "oh too heavy" lash extensions and smiles more naturally showing her pearly whites, she would look better. In the movie, her closed lip smile was so artificial, it was like she was in pain or something. Oh and ofcourse her attitude - guess its the "in " thing to have a "dude, I don't care what you think" attitude but showing too much of it in her interviews doesn't bode too well. The tamil public are infamously conservative - scandals make news - any publicity is good publicity but if its always going to be scandalous it may be better to just keep it under the wraps.

As you may have guessed, I saved Tamannah for the last, cause I think she is great. I first noticed her in the "nature power" soap adds - reason? She emoted too much! I had the "eyebrows-up -eh-look" on my face - couldn't understand why someone would try to woo the camera so much for a soap. But I guess she made her point - people did notice. Then came the sun dish ads. She looked horrible in Vyabaari. But Kaloori was the charm she was waiting for. Ever since, she has been riding the success wave. She still emotes a lot sometimes but what I like best about her is the way she comes across in her interviews - very level headed, no pouting, no lisping, no extra giggles. Her answers are very down to earth and friendly - Surprisingly sweet for a 19 year old.

Santoku bliss


I have finally graduated to Santoku bliss! All these years, I have tried serrated edges, bread knives, flat knives, thin long ones and so many other kinds, but never have I enjoyed the satisfaction of a knife cut through an onion so smoothly, as the Santoku.

The last block of knives I owned ( a few of them still lie in my kitchen drawer) proved to be the last straw. Wash and dry them - they'll rust; stick them in the knife block - they'll rust. So frustration drove me to the kitchen goods aisle and thats when I saw it! - my latest love - Santoku.
It has been 2 days and I have cooked 3 big meals now with my ever so pretty and surprisingly sharp, red handled, Santoku.

The Look...

That’s what I call my niece’s “Look”. It’s not a stare, it’s not a frown and so I just named it “The Look”. Ever since she was a baby, she has always had that look. It’s intense and times at which she has directed it at me, I’ve felt as though she isn’t looking at me but into me. Know what I mean? Like she is trying to assess my thoughts or something.

I hope someday, when she is old enough to articulate her thoughts, I’ll catch her with “The Look” and make her explain what she is thinking. For now, I’ll just have to settle with thinking about what she may be thinking! :-)


Yeah... I need to grow up

In India and among the Indian community all over the world, we have this (sickening) habit of calling elders Aunty/Uncle. Well, I didn’t give it any thoughts until I was called the same way. :(

There was this lady with her 5year old, standing in line before me at a store. I was shopping alone (to be interpreted as “totally glued to the phone yapping with my sister”) and it happened … The kid dropped his toy on my foot and apologized with a “Sorry Aunty!” OMG I just stopped talking for a minute and didn’t know what to say! The automatic “its ok sweetie” that jumped to my mouth just stayed put as my mind was totally bombarded with the “Aunty” bouncing around there… I know, I need to grow up! But one good thing that came out of that incident was a thought as to who else did I shock when I Aunty’d anyone a good 10 years over me? Hmmm…

It has been ages since that happened but I recollect the incident every time I’m “Aunty’d”. But I’m good now... I’m not shocked… so I guess I’m growing up though not there just yet! :(

Arranged Marriages - I do / I do not do ??


Believe me, my ancestors were real smart people when they started all this, its just the ones in the middle who messed it all up! When civilization started in the Dravidian world, people lived in small communities grouped by their occupation. So there were communities of farmers, merchants, fishermen and so on. The families within those communities were huge and close knit and everyone played a part in keeping the ball rolling. Naturally they preferred marrying within their community as it helped maintain the harmony.
There may have been exceptions (and not so good ones) that may have forced these "common sense marriages" to become rules. These rules then became baselines for the caste system.

And I believe thats from when my smart ancestors turned into dull rule following individuals.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not against rules... I'm just against following rules blindly.
And I'm sorry to say the "marryIntoTheSameCommunity" thingy doesn't seem to be working anymore!!! Before you label me as "the know it all" and move on to the next blog, spare a few minutes, read through the end of this and if you still feel I'm the "know it all", leave me a comment and tell me so.

Take Sam and Sandra for example... (of course I changed their names, people!) Sam's parents searched high and low to find a bride in their same religion -> caste ->subCaste (Oh yeah ... the drill down is sometimes 4 to 5 levels deep). It took them 3 years to find Sandra. Sam told us he agreed to marry Sandra because his parents were happy with the alliance. BS! The marriage happened and then it all unfolded...
Domestic violence.. uh huh.. can u believe it? His excuse? "She isn't smart enough, she doesn't get the way of life here, she is too dull"

OMG Don't you agree with me when I say "smart, intelligent and what not?" should have been on Sam's list instead of the "what's good for my parents should do for me" ???? Atleast Sandra would've been spared.

Well, I agree, Sam and Sandra are on one end of the spectrum... at RED. There are people like Pete and Peggy at GREEN , who do it the psuedo way ( you know, get their priorities in order, parents search for a bride based on those priorities, the would be-s talk and talk and take their time to decide and then get married) and then there are people like me at VIOLET who step in only when they are ready... theAbsolutelyNoCompromise ready!

Ofcourse not every color in the spectrum is blissful! If it were, life would be too dull and boring. For instance, if I had gone RED, my seeramolagu saathamuthu and mendiya kozhambu would have been appreciated more than the no intonation "yeah its good, ammini" but then what about my cynical wisecracks, and deep rooted sense of independence? I bet that would have caused a lot of friction!

As my sister always says, we need to choose our battles. For it gets too tiring fighting each and every one of them.

So unless and otherwise marriages are arranged based on the actual needs and aspirations of the bride and groom, Arranged marriages in this age are a definite "I do not do"!!!

Ani's second milestone


Time flies.. yet it feels so still at times. I've been to 6 places in the last 8 months but the pockets of void between the travels leaves me longing for more.
T'was a 4 day trip to DC. Ani's b'day celebrations covered more of the first 2 days. We had a gala time and never wanted it to end. The next day we went to the Udvar Hazy center and checked out all the cool fighter jets. I liked the "the stealth" the best and ofcourse we took a bunch'a snaps with the plane model featured in "Top Gun". ;) Well maybe we believed that if we stayed there just that much longer, Tom Cruise would pop out of the plane!

Anyways, the guys managed to round us up and get us back home in time for a steamy hot dinner. The last day was spent just sitting at home and overtaxing Bell's invention to say our byes to friends and family around there.